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Common Courtesy is No Longer Common


I’ll admit it.  When I fly, I usually fly first-class due to the fact that I’m a bit claustrophobic.  Sitting in the small seats towards the back gives me a great deal of anxiety, to the point that when I fly, I’m willing to choke up the first class fare.  First class round trip with Delta Airlines is usually around $1500.  I have come to enjoy the perks of actually getting smiles from the flight attendants, complimentary entertainment, padding in the roomy seat from top to bottom, a little beverage prior to leaving, a hot towel to clean my hands with, and access to a restroom close by.  Having endometriosis and problems arising from such a case, sometimes makes that restroom a lifesaver.  


By contrast, regular fare is about $500 nowadays.  The seats are crowded both side to side and front to back which is even further emphasized when you are 20 to 30 pounds overweight.  I can feel the metal through the seat “cushions” grating on my back and buttocks for the entire flight.  The flight attendants are noticeably less attentive—sorry, but I’ve found that to be the case on countless occasions.  There are almost always loud and rowdy children in the regular fare seats (Yes, I DO love children, just not ornery ones who are seemingly ignored by their parents throughout an entire 4 hour flight).  And there are 2 bathrooms being shared by hundreds rather than a small handful in first class.


So today when I read on the news that a man on a Delta flight was arrested, put into handcuffs and spent 2 days in jail for his anxious response to a bathroom emergency on an international flight, I was absolutely disgusted. 


delta-joao-correa1Apparently,  of Concord, OH really had to go.  But when his pathway was blocked by a beverage cart, he requested to use the business class restroom.  He was refused. I find this completely ridiculous on so many counts. 


1) I have seen regular fare customers frequently use the first-class restrooms without so much as a cross look from a flight attendant.  Delta does not practice any semblance of consistency in enforcing this ludicrous FAA regulation.


2) It seems apparent that the flight attendant would rather the man degrade himself and put passengers at risk by having a urination accident in his pants, than move the blasted beverage cart or allow him to use the business class restroom.  I mean really, just how clean and safe would YOU feel knowing that a man just peed uncontrollably (or worse) on the floor near you on the airplane?   Talk about a bio-hazard!  The man was clearly desperate to use the bathroom for Pete’s sake!  Do they teach these flight attendants to be inhumane before allowing them to work an international flight? 


3) With so many individuals out of work at present, you would think that any company would have the pick of the litter in selecting conscientious and courteous individuals.  This flight attendant represents Delta and the business culture perpetuated by Delta.  


4) Apparently the man’s request to use the business class restroom on an international flight was against FAA regulations.  For one, I firmly believe that most flight attendants are just as ignorant of real FAA regulations as most of the local police departments are of U.S. Constitution law.  So having a flight attendant taking a stand based on a supposed FAA regulation is hard to swallow.  (See http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=94191 and http://www.wnd.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=56544 for more evidence that police just don’t know the law.)  And besides, are you kidding me?  The government now gets to tell people where they can pee???  And hey, we even get to pay for such ridiculous rules!  I suppose they’re going to try and tell us it’s for our safety.  That’s right.  Keeping bad guys from the business class section of the plane will certainly save lives.  Or perhaps they were trying to provide some in-flight entertainment for the rest of the passengers as they watched a 43 year-old man be degraded by having to ask to use the potty like a 1st grader.


Personally, when I spend so much money to ride in a more expensive class, I’d like to presume that such a premium price gives me access to a bathroom when I need one.  Then again, I’d like to think that the toilet seat would actually be bigger than a Frisbee as well (One can dream, can’t they?).  However, I would NEVER deny someone else from using that same bathroom in an emergency simply because I spent more for my ticket than he did.  After all, while I may be a “first class passenger” that doesn’t negate me from being a human being.  


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I recently received a marketing book which had a blurb on the cover that warned me that the subject matter was not exactly something that one would share at church.  While it certainly was not pornographic at all, several of the marketing highlights had to do with sales tactics used by a former “Madame” in New York City.  While I appreciate a warning that something may be offensive to some persons, I take stronger offense to the term “Mature adult content” instead.  Who in the world ever decided that one’s ability to tolerate raunch, foul language, and inappropriate conversations was an act of maturity??

I looked up the definition of “mature” with my good friend, Webster, and there is nothing noted in the official definition that would denote the word “mature” as meaning “less sensitive to offensive vocabulary,” “tolerant of a broad range of views,” “apathetic to societal indecencies,” etc.  In fact, the word mature relates to “coming to a condition of full development” or “having attained a final or desired state.” 


I’m sorry, but when I hear someone ridiculously use the “F” bomb I don’t automatically think, “Oh, this person has attained their desired state.”  Instead I feel sorry for the person who clearly has no broader repertoire of vocabulary to choose from and wonder what school district they attended, etc.


When I overhear a vulgar conversation about things which I feel should be kept private or even sacred, I don’t envy the “mature” conversation that is taking place without me and I don’t find myself thinking “Wow, these adults have ‘come to a full development’.”  Instead, I cringe at the obvious lack of tact and social graces these individuals are displaying at their present state of lowness and silently pray that they wake up some day to a more worthwhile part of themselves.


I don’t see vulgar, offensive, raunchy, or questionable actions or words as a sign of maturity or intelligence–in fact quite the opposite. I see it as an indicator of one’s lack of ability to think for themselves instead of joining the dumbed-down, apathetic masses. I see a lack of intelligence.  I see a lack of beauty.  I see an erosion of society and the worth of our human race.  Ironically, one of the definitions of “mature” as noted by Webster is “belonging to the middle portion of erosion.”  Now that, I believe, is a more fitting definition that I hope to remember the next time I’m “Warned” of “mature content.”


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